I'm strugglin' here....

I am letting my hair grow out. But these things I used to call bangs are out of control. I have not had them cut since the last time they were cut too short in Nov/Dec......that scarred me. But as I was informed the other day, I can no longer call them bangs. They are too long and should just be considered as part of my hair..they don't get a separate name. I look horrible with them pulled back. My forehead isn't really good for it. And I am super pale which doesn't help, but that's a subject for another day. I try to make them "blend" with my hair but they don't...they still fall in my face. They are in between the tip of my nose and upper lip in length. I need help!!! I am going crazy over it!! I am obsessed with my hair..especially when it was shorter. i actually didn't think I would be able to go through the ugly growing it out stage but so far it hasn't been too bad. I wanted to just get my bangs cut for now and the rest trimmed up in about a month. But I am afraid If I go in somewhere and tell them I just want my bangs cut, they will look at me crazy. Because I know i have dead ends but I want to let it grow just a tad bit more before I trim it. UGH......